First, I must say that I am very saddened by your loss of a loved daughter. I have 4 daughters and 3 sons, and love them all beyond words. It is refreshing to find a non-judgmental, fair, unbiased resource. I have always tried to tell my patients that the decision regarding an unplanned pregnancy is an unfair one. They have to choose between 2 outcomes, but don't WANT either one. However, the best we can do IS the best we can do. No one can do better than their best. I explain carefully that saddness is normal, expected, even necessary, but that GUILT is not allowable. You can not feel guilty for doing what you feel is best for you. If you are going to feel guilty, then take the other path. I am open to your suggestions that may make me more helpful (yet unbiased) to my patients.