First, I must say that I am very saddened by your loss of a loved daughter. I have 4 daughters and 3 sons, and love them all beyond words. It is refreshing to find a non-judgmental, fair, unbiased resource. I have always tried to tell my patients that the decision regarding an unplanned pregnancy is an unfair one. They have to choose between 2 outcomes, but don’t WANT either one. However, the best we can do IS the best we can do. No one can do better than their best. I explain carefully that saddness is normal, expected, even necessary, but that GUILT is not allowable. You can not feel guilty for doing what you feel is best for you. If you are going to feel guilty, then take the other path. I am open to your suggestions that may make me more helpful (yet unbiased) to my patients.
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Guys go through this too. After all it was a potential life. It took about 10 years and the ‘grace’ of a good reconciliation in a Catholic confessional for me to let go of it.
I had an abortion a little over a year ago. I was going to have twins, I already have 2 kids, I was 22 at the time I had it done. To this day I’m telling myself it was the best choice at the time, I can have another baby someday, just try to forget about it. I never thought the loss would hurt so bad. I think about my twins ever day, I can not get past it. The pain is just too much. I try to forget about, and try to get over it but I don’t now how. HOW can I get past this?
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